Do you have the right to search for the secrets of your children teenagers?

Educators contend that they first mistakes that should not fall for a carefree life and remain together, relations between them; due to the negative feelings that result from such attempts in the heart and mind of the teenage son or daughter.

To avoid the error cautions Dr. Amal El-Sherbini, a researcher psycho-social status of the family, for the benefit of points every mother and father:

* Find the secrets lose their children the most important feature, a mutual trust between them and their parents, which affects the relationship significantly.

* Give confidence has to start by parents; Valemraehg not give confidence without being abused, do not feel its value without that gets gains.

* The existence of secrets in his life caused by his desire for independence from parents and excess Rkabthma, this should not stand in front of biological and psychological motivations position of hostility full trying to extinguish.

* Parents believe that adolescence need to censor, and know all the ins children for fear of falling into the big mistakes, this is not entirely true.

* Chanting sons: Inspection behind us and spy on every move we make; Kalansat into our conversation
, search in our papers, or watching us with Asqa abroad ... actions make us feel no confidence in ourselves.

* Confirms flag: that the mental health of a teenager, comes from self-confidence and a sense of confidence of others, can not only be one of them comes to the availability of the second factor; can not be trusted teenager himself, but if a man felt that he desired and loved by others.

* Can not accept others' confidence in his behavior and his actions only if it has psychological pride and confidence in his abilities to achieve the goals.

* Confusion and error in behavior, and the inability to make a sound decision in a timely manner, due to lack of confidence comes teenager - or adolescence - in itself, and not the trust of others.

* Distrust lead to resort to methods of fraud and deception, even if they are clear and antics undeclared and intact.

* Lying paid to the wrong behavior to achieve the comfort and pleasure, and revenge on those who do not trust it.

* Give confidence does not mean neglect; but are inhalers confidence and calculated, suit doses and stage of development, that there will be an agreement between the two parties discussed mutual trust and peaceful without detriment to the party to the other party, and that each party bear the consequences of breach of this contract.

* Keep track of parents for their children's privacy directly loses the teenager  son and personality, psychological and blurs its features, is also affected his personality more negative and dependency, neither evolve nor reach maturity, independence and self-reliance.